I can wander through them for hours and hours, looking at the stones, wondering who these people were, how their lives compared to mine. I wonder about the loves they had, the hurts they endured, the joys they felt...what dreams they accomplished, what dreams they didn't...I've often wondered if the dead can feel my presence as we sometimes feel haunted by the dead...
It's not something that I can explain, actually, I'm not sure I even understand it myself, but I find a wonderful sense of solace walking through the garden of the dead. Each of those headstone represents a life...from birth to death, some very short, some very long...some having accomplished great deeds, some having accomplished only (what most would consider) mediocre ones. The history there is our history...
I've spent days and days wandering through our local cemetery. Even now, after spending all that time there, I still find things that are a total surprise to me.
For instance, not long ago, I had gone back out to the cemetery to find a tree growing very near a headstone that, I swear, looks like it has a butt sticking out of it. I thought, "how funny, I wonder if this is a message from beyond the grave..." The batteries in my camera had lost their charge just before I was tried to get a pic of it... so I went back out to get one. Honestly...how can you NOT find this funny?
I parked the car where I thought I'd seen the tree, but it turns out I parked one section too soon. While I was looking around I found this. He stands like a sentinel very near the entrance to the cemetery, facing east, as though he is waiting for his master to return. In all my wanderings, I'd never seen him before. He's beautiful.
This is an interesting headstone...on all four sides you see the names of four different couples. There is a sentiment that reads "friends in death as in life". As I walked around it I expected to see some statement about a horrible tragedy taking them all at once. There wasn't one, the death dates for all of them are different.
And, like every other community,we honor our heroes...

Next time you're out wandering around, don't forget your local cemeteries. They aren't just a place for the dead or those mourning them, they are amazing places of history and wonder...each headstone a life, just like yours or mine. Each with their story, and each of those stories no less important than any other. Especially to the one who was living it, and those who loved them.
As is evidenced by this poignant note left by grieving parents...I mourn their loss for them...and can only imagine the grief of losing one of my own children. And I will continue to visit this grave and say a little prayer each time I am there.
We don't understand death, so we fear it...it gives rise to the scary stories of ghosties and ghoulies of Halloween as we begin that slide toward the shortening of days, and the darkness of winter. I take a different view...as a professor in one of my classes way back in college said..."You can't really say you've experienced all of life until you've died." It is the inevitable end for all things living...but rather than fearing it, let it be a reminder that you must live fully...to whatever YOUR definition of that is....make your mark, however big or small....and most of all, love deeply and unconditionally...that way you'll have no room for regrets.







